How to Spot Sexual Attraction in Eyes | Body Language

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out of all the different nonverbal
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behaviors
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I think attraction spotting attraction
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is without a doubt the easiest we’re
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very emotional creatures and when we’re
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attracted to somebody it’s very very
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difficult to hide people think they’re
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hiding it but things always slip so one
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of the ways they slip are essentially
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the eyes and there’s a lot of different
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ways you can use the eyes to determine
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or whether or not somebody’s attracted
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you the first thing is essentially eye
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contact right so of course you for the
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most part usually we make eye contact
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with people that were interested in or
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people that were attracted to right but
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this is not entirely true some people
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are shy or anxious and they’re not going
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to make eye contact so what you’re
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looking for essentially is a deviation
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in eye contact so one of the ways you
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can use is eye contact and there’s a
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little trick that’s very very reliable
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so what you’re gonna do is if you look
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at somebody in a bar and a restaurant on
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the street and they break eye contact
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vertically so they look down so you make
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eye contact with them and they break eye
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contact vertically vertically all right
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and then within like 30 seconds or like
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twenty to thirty seconds they
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reestablished eye contact approach them
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they like you it’s a very very reliable
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thing essentially what they’re doing you
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stare at them they’re submitting to you
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and then they they take a little second
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glance to see who you are it’s very very
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very reliable another thing if somebody
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so in the opposite of that would be if
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you look at somebody and they look at
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you and they immediately go and break
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eye contact it’s like up not interested
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but what is reliable is that you break
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eye contact and then come back break eye
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contact then come back great guy contact
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then come back it’s very interesting and
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don’t let it wait like if you see that
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just go right away because the more and
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more you wait the more and more eye
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contact becomes very very awkward one of
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the things I do in one of my classes is
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I have people stare and stare each other
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on the ice for three minutes without
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saying anything they just need to stare
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each other and there’s like this try
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that go out and try to stare somebody in
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the eyes for even 90 seconds I guarantee
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you you can’t do it it’s awkward and
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it’s so awkward because humans are just
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and we’re not really it’s a level of
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intimacy when you stare somebody in the
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eyes and it’s just so awkward doing it
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with this stranger you know studies will
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show that if you stare somebody in the
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eyes for 90 seconds to emit 90 seconds
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to 3 minutes all of a sudden you’re
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gonna like that person a lot better than
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everybody else in the room because
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kind of shared this emotional connection
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so eye contacts important in that
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respect the second thing you can look
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for essentially this blink rate now this
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is a little bit this is really cool so
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blink rates correlated with emotional
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excitement so when we’re emotionally
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excited our blink rate tends to increase
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right so average average blink rates
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tend to be a below twenty blinks per
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minute so most people it depends on
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where you are but it’s really hard to
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literally nail down with the average
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blink rate is but in my experience it
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seems to be around ten blinks per minute
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right
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so you see whenever you see a sudden
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spike or a bunch of sudden spikes in
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somebody’s blink rate it can be an
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indication of attraction so in my dating
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studies you see blink rates through the
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roof because the person’s across the
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table from you years an emotional
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response you’re attracted to them
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the third way of kind of using the eye
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to determine attraction is dilation very
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interesting our eyes dilate when we’re
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attracted to something right it’s very
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go out and find a Maxim magazine or a
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Playboy magazine or any cover that’s
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predominantly you know men focus in
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every single woman will have her eyes
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dilated you never ever see them
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constricted and the reason why is
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because men perceive women with dilated
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eyes to be more attractive than women
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with constricted eyes to the point of
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back in the day prostitutes used to put
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a specific toxin in their eyes to make
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them dilate
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