What’s the Right Amount of Eye Contact?

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if I stare like this do you find me more
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persuasive how about like this Anthony
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here for dnews and we’ve often been told
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that eye contact is the key to being
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powerful or persuasive whole books are
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devoted to the power of eye contact and
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how it’s going to improve everything
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from your job to your romantic life
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except no see some new findings were
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just published in Psychological Science
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that say direct eye contact actually
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makes people less likely to be persuaded
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by you especially if they were skeptical
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about you or your ideas before have they
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figured that out well
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look me directly in the eye and I will
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tell you two experiments experiment one
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using eye tracking software researchers
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measured the amount of eye contact
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subjects made with a speaker in a video
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the more they focused on the speaker’s
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eyes while they gave their opinion on an
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issue the less their attitudes shifted
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to match experiment two people were
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asked to either look in a speaker’s eyes
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or at a speaker’s mouth during a
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conversation and people who looked into
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the mouth were more receptive to the
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speaker’s opinion the reason we’re told
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to use eye contact is that it exudes
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confidence but this study seems to show
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that it’s a confidence that comes from a
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place of trying to assert dominance or
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use intimidation that’s why animals
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aren’t into eye contact its
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confrontational if someone doesn’t agree
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with you and you look them in the eye
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there might be a whole set of
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subconscious psychological reactions
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that put them on the defensive of course
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it’s situational right in a closer
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relationship iContact is a sign of
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connectedness it’s also cultural here in
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the US and in a lot of European
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countries a certain amount of eye
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contact is required to show that you’re
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paying attention to someone in some
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Latin American Asian and African
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cultures it can be considered aggressive
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or disrespectful there’s also a school
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of thought that says even though too
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much eye contact seems inappropriate now
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that wasn’t always the case a study
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shows that adults in the US make eye
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contact for about 30 to 60 percent of a
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conversation and that used to be around
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60 to 70 percent so why do they think it
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changed mobile phones see people check
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their phones about 150 times a day on
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average and we’ve just gotten used to
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their not being eye contact during a
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conversation so we get uncomfortable
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with it faster
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okay so how much eye contact is the
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right amount now assuming you are in a
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country that feels similarly to the US a
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social consultant pegged it at seven to
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ten seconds at a time for one-on-one
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conversations and three to five seconds
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at a time in a group setting and a study
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an applied neuropsychology showed that
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if you need information from someone
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more than 10 seconds of eye contact will
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actually affect their short-term memory
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and make it harder for them to answer
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questions gosh my eyes dart around too
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much I think and I am definitely bad
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about looking at my phone all the time
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how are your eye contact skills let us
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know down in the comments and subscribe

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